* Yes, even if that's your way to get people to use condoms!
We attended a non-commercial satellite session yesterday morning TUSA07
Everything You Have Ever Wanted to Know About Pleasurable Safer Sex but Were Too Afraid to Ask. Instead of having a very early (7:00 AM, mind you) breakfast and a conversation about bringing pleasure and sexuality back to all the people-scaring prevention messages, we got
This how
MYX Annaïs recounts her experience:
On Tuesday I woke up bright and early to attend
a session at the International AIDS Conference titled Everything You
Have Ever Wanted to Know About Pleasurable Safer Sex but Were Too Afraid
to Ask. The session was led by Pleasure Project which “builds bridges
between the pleasure/sex industry and the safer sex world by avoiding
negativity, and by ensuring that erotic materials include examples of safer sex, and that sexual health materials include pleasure as a key element”.
To say I was excited is an understatement; you see I make it my
personal mission to talk about pleasure whenever and wherever possible.
In a society that sexualizes everything and everyone we seem
increasingly scared to acknowledge our right to pleasure. Yes, we have
the right to pleasure, whether it be physical or sexual pleasure, to the
immense pleasure you may get from being in bed with a tub of ice cream…
But back to the point at hand, I believed this session would look at
how we can position condoms (and indeed other forms of contraception)
within the sphere of immediate sexual pleasure. In other words, I was
hoping this session would address the idea that condoms can and are sexy
and can and does enhance sexual pleasure.
Instead, I heard
from two representatives from DKT (a family planning services, and
reproductive health products provider for the developing world) about
how they have advertised and marketed condoms in recent years. I’ll give
you all two guesses on how they have gone about doing this. Not that
you need any clues, but the first clue is naked women. Yup, it turns out
if you want to sell condoms you have to objectify women and reduce
their sexuality and pleasure to a tool to excite men. Below are a couple
of examples of the ad campaigns DKT Brazil have employed, they don’t
look all too different to beer, perfume, or car commercials do they? Now
I understand that selling condoms kind of requires sex and I’m not
against that at all, what I am against is the idea that a woman’s
sexuality is only good for the pleasure of a man.
When asked
by a YSAFE member why images that reinforce negative images of womens’
sexuality, race, and beauty, were being used, they responded with (and I
paraphrase) ‘Well everyone else is doing it so why can’t we? And we all
know SEX SELLS!’ Now I don’t know about you, but that it the laziest
answer ever. So what, because everyone else is presenting women as an
object of mens desire in the media you can too? Wouldn’t it be a greater
accomplishment to portray sexual pleasure as something for all
partners? Wouldn’t it be better to illustrate safer sex within the
confines of a healthy relationship?
What are your thoughts on
the ways in which DKT are marketing condoms is it different from how
women are represented in the media as sexual objects?
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| The right-outside-the-session example on how "DKT does not objectify women". |
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Twitter account too, in case you are interested...
Nevertheless, while ranting and raving about this, we still love
The Pleasure Project that does a wonderful job transforming the "if you use a condom, all the hot babes will jump on you" discourse into an honest dialogue on safe and pleasurable sex. So, our hope is that this is just an unfortunate hook-up they've had with DKT.
Or, Pleasure Project could do some training for DKT just to make sure they finally get the difference between performing hegemonic heterosexuality in a "sexy" way and actually bringing the sensuality back to safer sex.
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"The day after my 20th birthday I realized that, although I was over 18, semi-independent and living in a foreign country, my mum is still the person I turn to when something goes wrong. And the one I call to express my joy about a new pan I've got.
"I am so happy that education in my life
